Facts About Dating
- 1 out of 4 high school students is, or has been in
the past, involved in an abusive relationship.
- Jealousy is the leading cause of dating violence.
- Only 1 out of 25 victims of dating violence ever
seeks the help of a teacher, police officer, or counselor.
- Only about 4 out of 10 relationships end after the
onset of violence or abuse.
How can you tell if a relationship is
If you have answered yes to any of
these questions you may be involved in an abusive relationship.
Often people don't realize they are being abused, especially if
there is no physical violence. You may feel that the abuse is your
fault and that you are responsible for the problems in the
relationship. Remember: THE ABUSE IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You cannot make
someone hurt you - they make a choice to do it. A healthy
relationship is based on equality, trust, respect, and open
- Have you stopped spending time with friends or
family because of boyfriend or girlfriend jealousy?
- Are you forced to explain and justify every place
you go, everything you do, and every person you see, to avoid
making your boyfriend or girlfriend angry?
- Does your boyfriend or girlfriend ridicule,
criticize, belittle or insult you?
- Are you afraid to disagree with your boyfriend or
- Has he/she ever hit, slapped, shoved, kicked, or
thrown things at you?
What can I do if I'm
involved in an abusive relationship?
boyfriend or girlfriend is abusive, it is likely the abuse will
happen more frequently and become increasingly more violent over
- 1. It is important to tell someone and get support. Talk to a
friend, a parent or relative, or an adult in your life who you
- Come up with a safety plan. Keep some spare money and phone
numbers on you at all times. Always let family and friends know
where you are going to be, and when you will be home. You know
your abuser best. What do you need to do to keep yourself safe?
- If you decide to end the relationship, get support. You may
want to talk with someone at school, especially if you are afraid
there may be physical violence. You can also call a 24-hour
domestic violence hotline and talk to a counselor. A counselor can
offer emotional support, help you come up with a safety plan for
ending the relationship, and give you information about legal
services that are available for you if you need them.
It Is Not Your Fault.
Don't Blame Yourself.
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